This house is getting crowded

| September 18, 2013

Sam has entered that very typical stage where she has imaginary friends. The first of these was Teddy Bear. She kept talking about him, then they started playing hide and seek and other games in the house. One night she was making Mark crazy running through the house yelling, “Teddy Bear, where are you?” He thought she was looking for a toy. I finally told him what was going on. She is so funny with it. We went to my parents’ house for dinner for my birthday and suddenly she told me that Teddy Bear was going to stay home but he decided to come over. So there he was.

Next came the fairies. I was driving her home after work yesterday and she started talking to them. She then told me that they sit on the side seats and she sits in the middle seat. Also, that the fairies didn’t need seat belts. I told her no, everyone needs seat belts and she responded, quite accurately, “No, imaginary people don’t need seat belts!” I think it’s really funny that she knows they are imaginary. Like, “Duh, Mom. They aren’t real.” I have no idea if this is typical or not. I tended to think that kids sort of believe in their imaginary friends, but who knows. As long as all these new friends don’t start causing mischief in our house, it is fine with me!

Survivor – Week 1!

| September 18, 2013

Sam survived her first full three days of preschool!  Mark and I are so proud of her. She is still a bit unsure about going, but there are no tears, not even the hint of tears. She isn’t exactly jumping up and down at the idea of going to school, but she has fun there and doesn’t complain when I say it’s time to go. She has even started to open up a bit and tell us things that happened without our pulling it out of her. Here are some of the tidbits we learned.

  • “I missed you just a little bit, but then I didn’t. I missed Zephyr.”
  • A girl has a pet spider. Sam did not ask the girl’s name, the spider’s name, nor did she share that she has a pet cat, but she’ll get there.
  • In Sam’s words, “I made a friend.” 🙂 All Mark and I could find out was it was a girl but Sam, once again, didn’t ask her name.
  • Her teacher taught them to sit “crisscross applesauce” (apparently, it is politically incorrect these days to say “Indian Style”).
  • She was sad because I forgot to put on her locket and she couldn’t look at our pictures on Friday.  Bad Mommy 🙁
  • One girl was kicking her at lunchtime (what Sam always calls snacktime) but she said she was sorry, and Mrs. McCann said, “All the feet have to be quiet, and keep your hands to yourself!” Sam thought this was very funny.
  • They do attendance and the teacher calls your name and you have to say you are here. I asked her how do you say, “I’m here!” and she said, “You have to raise your hand!” Marianna was not there.
  • They learned they have to push in their chairs.
  • On Monday, “the lady with the earrings” wasn’t there. I had noticed that Mrs. McCann wasn’t there so I said to Sam that I saw that and I wondered where she was. Sam told me her other teacher told them Mrs. McCann had a tummy ache. Sam hoped she was ok because tummy aches are not fun. The funny thing is that I have honestly never noticed that Mrs. McCann wears earrings. She certainly doesn’t wear large ones.

After Friday’s class, Mrs. McCann talked to Mark and I about the fact that Sam never eats snack and she wanted to know what in the heck Sam will eat! I told her she is a bit picky, but she likes mini saltine crackers and pretzels. We were told we could bring some in for her, and I did, and I am happy to report that on Monday, Sam ate snack with her class! She had some crackers. No juice, no water, but she did eat.

It is really impressive how much she is learning after only a few days. Last night she was telling me some story about something they did in class and it had to do with the days of the week. I couldn’t really understand what she was trying to explain, but then she said, “Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday…”  Ok, she skipped Thursday, but she never even knew any of the days before. And this morning, she went downstairs without me to follow after Zephyr and when I came down she told me she turned the kitchen lights on. I asked her if she pulled the chair over, because there was no evidence of how she could have done something like that, and she told me no, she used her stool. Her stool is in the powder room. Which means she went and got her stool, used it, then folded it back up and put it back.  Impressive.  Last week, that stool would have still been sitting there, right in the kitchen.

By the end of this school year I don’t think I’ll be able to recognize my little girl!

 

My Birthday

| September 16, 2013

My birthday this year was just as it always is — full of fun, wonderful gifts and my amazing family. Saturday is my day to sleep in and Mark and Sam ran out while I was still in bed and got a Chik-fil-A breakfast in bed! It was so cute, I heard Mark and Sam upstairs and it seemed late enough so I got up and got out of bed. They were upstairs getting Sam dressed so they could sneak out and Sam got really mad and told me, “You go back to bed!” So, off I went! When they came back I was served a yummy breakfast with my favorite people.

My actual birthday, Sunday, started out nice and early (thanks to Sammy).  But look at that adorable face! How could I even be upset that she woke me up at the crack of dawn?

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She couldn’t wait to help me open my presents, starting with the one she got for me. Apparently, a few months ago while we were shopping in Media, Sam saw something in a store and promptly dragged Mark to it with explicit instructions that it would be the perfect present for Mommy.

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And it was! I love my heart dish especially since I know it was given truly from my little girl’s heart.

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Sam couldn’t resist holding up and showing off one of her new iron on patches — ever since I showed her what they are, she is in love with them. She carried this little cat around for a while.

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We had dinner at my parents’ house and this is the cake that Sam helped decorate for me. My mom told me that Sam was very clear that I needed green icing. She put all the decorations on by herself.

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Sam loves that Mark has been wearing some crazy socks lately, and she wanted him to have rainbow socks like her. He got some, and since I had some too…well, it became a silly family portrait.

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More presents! Definitely, Sam’s favorite part of any birthday party.

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Here we are, the girls!

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Cake time! Sam sang Happy Birthday to me, which was so special. It was the first time my little girl sang that song to me and I will never forget the sound of her voice and the look on her face as she looked so intently at me while she concentrated on singing.

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Thank you everyone, for my wonderful day!

I will think of this every time I wear these. . .

| September 12, 2013

I had a cute conversation with Sam recently regarding the cordovan wingtip boots I was wearing:

Sam: “Daddy, your shoes are broken!”

Me: “What do you mean my shoes are broken?”

Sam: “They have holes in them!”

I will think of that every time I wear these shoes 🙂

First day of school (sniff…)

| September 11, 2013

Monday, September 9, 2013 was a very big day for our Samantha. It was her first day of preschool. Sam started school 3 days per week (Monday, Wednesday, and Friday) from 12:30 p.m. to 3:00 p.m. at St. Matthew’s Christian Nursery School. We chose the school for a lot of reasons, mostly because it came very highly recommended by a lot of people I asked but also, because it is so close to our house, 0.3 miles to be exact.  We thought being only a few blocks away would be nice since sometimes we could walk back and forth.

Sam was very hesitant for a long time about going to school, but she was pretty used to the idea by the time the actual day arrived. I talked to her a bit on Sunday about how she had school the next day and she understood. When it came time for her to get dressed Monday she started stalling, wanting to have a tea party and goofing around. Eventually though, she got dressed without a fuss. Here she is, in an outfit of her choosing, all ready to go.

In all of these pictures you can see a locket that I made for her that has my picture on one side and Mark’s on the other. It was my mom’s idea, that perhaps if she could look at our pictures it would make Sam feel less lonely and sad. Sam really loved the idea and was very excited to get her necklace. The pictures can be seen without her opening anything, she only has to look at it, which is perfect.

Mark took the day off to come with Sam and me. Monday was really only an orientation day, an hour, and we never left. We only separated from Sam for about 20 minutes. There was so much information given to the parents and Sam really seemed to like the idea that both her mom and dad were there, so I am glad he took off. There are so few dads at these things. Sam is luckier than she knows that she has a dad who actually wants to go to her events.

Ok, maybe she knows.

Me and my “baby”. It is hard to believe that I am losing some of our girl time on Mondays and Fridays!

We arrived at school in plenty of time to walk around and take some more pictures!

The school is actually part of a Lutheran church. These pictures were out front of the church. Sam loved the flowers and insisted we take pictures there.

In her hand you can see a little plastic bunny figurine that she insisted on bringing with her. I didn’t really want her bringing anything, but she seemed comforted by it so I let it go. I was afraid she’d put it down and lose it, but she managed to hang on to it the whole time.

We peeked inside the church and I told Sam to look backwards at Daddy and wave. I love the saucy wave and foot action!

After a bit, it was high time to get moving toward her class. She wanted to walk with her Dad.

While we waited outside I showed her the sign and told her what it said, “A place for friendship and learning” which is exactly what I hope she gets out of it.

Sam liked the welcome sign in the shape of a heart.

Once we went in we picked up the orientation packet and her tote bag, which she is supposed to bring every day, and we headed up to her classroom. Sam had seen it once before when we took a brief tour of the school, but we didn’t get to walk around much since school was in session.  She seemed really excited to be there and see everything they had.

Here are some pictures of Sam’s first look at her classroom. This is Mrs. McCann, her teacher. There is also an assistant, Mrs. Curran. They have a big kitchen set, which I knew Sam would like.

Boy, was she excited to see a big, stuffed Clifford! You can see her tote bag in her hand…more on that later. The train set was one of the first things she saw when we went into the room. She loves trains, and oddly, it is one thing we have never bought her. I don’t know why when she likes them so much.

She is never that interested in dolls at home, but she seemed to like the baby doll things in the room.

Since we were up there pretty early, I managed to get a few good shots of the empty classroom. Here is one side…

…and here is the other.

Each child has their own hook and cubby. Sam’s hook is below. She is lucky number 13 of 18 students in her class (the only redhead too!)

It came time for us to separate from her for the parents meeting with the director and we told Sam we would be right back. Later, when we re-joined her, she seemed so upset. She clung to me so tightly and it looked like she had been crying. In the car, Mark and I asked her if she cried and she said no, but she had the boo boo lip and her face was sad. We asked her if anyone in her class had cried and she again said no, and we knew that wasn’t true since her teacher told the waiting parents there had been a few tears, although she didn’t say from which child. It wasn’t hard for us to figure out that Sam was one of those with tears.

We tried to ask her about her experience but all we could get out of her was that she didn’t eat the snack (not surprising) and that she drew a picture, and that, “the lady said we would play on the playground if it wasn’t raining, but we didn’t….”

Here is her very first preschool picture!

Before she even went to school I promised her that she could have ice cream after so we did just that. After a while we went to King of Prussia Mall to relax and shop and have dinner, and lucky Sam had MORE ice cream. Hey, it was a rough day, she deserved it!

As to her tote bag, the school encouraged us to help our child personalize it with either paint, markers, or whatever they wanted to do. Sam LOVED that idea. Before she even had ice cream she wanted to decorate it. We got her markers and she wanted to draw then I remembered I had some iron-on patches she could use. Sam had never seen patches before and when I explained to her what they were she couldn’t wait to use every single one I had. She told me exactly where they had to go, and I marked the outlines with a pencil and ironed them on while she ate ice cream and watched tv. Here is her bag. She is so proud of it.

The next day, Tuesday, while I was putting Sam to bed she somewhat randomly told me, in a sad kind of voice, “Mommy, I cried at school.” I asked her why and she said, “Because I missed you.  I missed Daddy too.” I asked her what her teacher did and she said she didn’t do anything (which I don’t believe) but they read a book, and she sat on a cat place mat, which I take to be something to do with circle time. She also told me that a little girl said she missed her mommy too which I found very sweet. It is nice to know that another little girl was trying to comfort her. I asked her if she cried the whole time or just some of the time and she said, “I cried a lot.” Oh boy.  I tried to narrow down how much she may have cried so I asked her, “Before or after you drew your picture,” and she said, “I cried while I was drawing my picture.” Yeah, this does not surprise me. I tried to comfort her about it the best I could and she fell asleep while I laid next to her hoping the next time at school would be easier.

So, that brings us to today, her first “real” day of school. She seemed ok when I told her it was time to go, talking about how everyone can’t wait to see her tote bag, just holding my hand, but she got more clingy while waiting in the lobby for the teacher to open the door to the stairwell that leads to her classroom. By the time it was her turn to go in, it looked like Niagara Falls was coming and her face was crushed.

I left, because what was I going to do, and hoped she was ok. When I went to pick her up I arrived a bit early and figured I’d just sit in the car for a while. I could just see into one corner of her school playground and so I sat there willing her to run by so I could see her, willing her to look happy, and I was rewarded. After a few minutes, I saw her little orange head run by, all smiles, in a line with a bunch of other kids. Each time I would see her zoom by, playing the way a little girl should, I felt more relieved. My heart was light. My girl is happy. And when I finally was reunited with her and asked, “Did you have fun?” her answer was, thankfully, an unequivocal, “YES!” That is all I got out of her – it was like pulling teeth. You’d think she was already a teenager…